Are Romance Novels Setting Unrealistic Expectations?


In the short answer. . . yes.

In the long answer. . . yes.

In any fucking answer. . . yes.

I can say all that I’m about to say because I am a fan of romance novels and no matter how unrealistic they are, I’m still going to read them.

Let’s first look at the formula for romance novels.

First I want to start with the women.

  • They have this to die for body but they weren’t aware until the guy points it out.Β 
    • Women with nice bodies 7/10 know they have nice bodies, let’s not kid ourselves here.
  • The woman is a virgin or she’s only been with 1-2 men.
    • Bullshit.
    • Are you trying to me that in order to find our one true love we have to be pure? Well, thank fuck my husband didn’t get that memo.

  • For some strange reason this one particular woman can change a man in not point 3 mins.
    • A man isn’t going to change because some woman wants him to. A man will only change when he is ready.



Next we are going to move on to the men.

  • They have fucked half of their city and can get any woman they want.
    • There are a plenty of men in the world who will fuck anything that has a willing vagina.
  • He’s possessive and domineering, a workaholic, had an abusive childhood and hates his family which means he needs her to save him.
    • Everyone woman wants to play captain-save-a-hoe every now and then but not every man needs that. Sometimes you don’t have to save someone, you just have to be there.
    • Let’s be real for a hot second shall we? Men are not walking around thinking that every man who talks to us is going to take his woman away. Men are not going to fight every man who looks in a woman’s direction. Men are not going to pick you up over their shoulder and carry you away because you wore a short dress.
  • He’s rich.
    • Self explanatory.

  • His dick is 10-12 inches and thick.
    • I have seen my fair share of dicks and I can say that most men are not that big. Don’t get me wrong because some are but it is not the norm.
    • Ladies, y’all need to prepare for an average 7 inch, semi thick dick every now and then.Β 
  • His sex skills are the best thing since sliced bread.
    • Not every man knows how to pick a woman up and fuck her against the hotel door – y’all gonna find yourselves singles if you keep up these unrealistic expectations.



The meet.

  • For some odd reason all romance books have the characters meet and they are instantly attracted to one another. . . nope. Unrealistic.
  • There is always some conflict to why they can’t act on that attraction. . . nope. Unrealistic.

The sacrifice.

There is always, always, always something major that one the people have to give up or give into to be together that changes everything. . .nope. Unrealistic.

I do have a point to this post and some of you may not like it.

  • Stop comparing your love life to that of the characters you find in books.

  • Your spouse is probably amazing so don’t put them up against someone in a book who isn’t real. Unless it’s Jamie from Outlander because he is real and I love him!

  • If your spouse can’t afford to buy you that mansion on the hills or the penthouse in downtown Manhattan, who gives a fuck. The better question is. . . Does he/she love you?
  • Just because your sex life doesn’t look like it does in romance books doesn’t mean it’s not good.

Romance novels are for entertainment not a place to compare your life. Don’t let these fictional characters turn you into an unhappy person because your life is not like theirs. Enjoy books for what they are, books.

Remember to follow all things messy. . .

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Hey there! I'm Danielle! I just a girl who loves books. I love books so much that I talk about the stories like they are real. Who knows? Maybe, they are real to me. I do love the book world, it's way better than reality. . .sometimes. . .because. . .I'm also a proud mama bear, wife, and mother!

16 thoughts on “Are Romance Novels Setting Unrealistic Expectations?

    1. Complete overshare, they are uncomfortable. I had to give up one time. πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ€£

  1. Bwahahaha You are making it in my next Sunday Post Dani!!!! So right and so good πŸ˜‰

    1. I had a chat about this with a blogging buddy a few weeks back and thought it would make a good blog post. Feel free to use it too!!

  2. This post is everything. I think you hit on all the points with blunt accuracy. Most of us are not pure or saving ourselves. Not all big dicks are worth the ride. I sincerely hope no one compares their lives to fictional relationships. The whole reason we read them is because their not real.

    1. You are πŸ’― correct!!! They are fictional characters for our entertainment not real people. Someone told me about a woman who divorced her husband because she wanted a man like the one in her books. I think she’s still single.

    1. Thank you Kristina!!! Yep, books are a fun pass time and not away to judge ourselves.

  3. Oh Danielle, what a great post! It’s really spot on totally made my morning (your captain-save-a-hoe and ‘dick’ dimensions? Lol)! I enjoy romance novels for the escape and don’t expect them for reality, however I am working with my DaisyGuy to throw me over his shoulder and carry me off. You’ve got to have some goals right? Regardless it’s ok, he’d probably break his back or something, and the reality is that I love him even more for not making me have to deal with that! πŸ˜‚

    1. Hahahahahahaha!!!!! We all have to acknowledge our inner captain-save-a-hoe from time to time. At least your DaisyGuy offered to pick you up, mine just looked at me like I was crazy and walked away.

      1. Everyone has their hard limits, right? Lol, I’ll bet there’s a bunch of others he’s literally jumped on (I’m feeling kind of punny this morning), and it doesn’t hurt to throw it out there anyway…you never know until you try! 🀣

    1. Right!!!! Those covers alone should be proof that there is not going to be one realistic moment inside 🀣

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